Coaching Christian Leaders

Freedom from Pornography and Sexual Sin - Episode 13

Dr. John Thorington of Restoring Hearts Counseling shares his expertise in counseling teens, couples, and church leaders who struggle with sexual addiction and other compulsive behaviors.
Dr. Thorington is a licensed professional counselor. He is also certified as a Sexual Recovery Therapist by the American Association of Sex Addiction Therapy. He holds four degrees—a BA in Religion and Psychology, a Master of Divinity, a Doctor of Ministry degree, and an MA in Community Counseling.
John works as a pastoral counselor at Focus on the Family in Colorado Springs, CO, and has 29 years of experience as a pastor in the local church. He is able to offer confidential, specialized help to pastors. He is also the author of the book Pure Teens: Honoring God, Relationships, and Sex

Dr. Thorington Shared

His testimony - 1:00
The focus of Restoring Hearts Counseling - 3:10
The widespread nature of sexual addiction, especially pornography within the church - 4:40
What tweens are and why is social media bad for them
The intended reader of this book Pure Teens: Honoring God, Relationships, and Sex - 6:13
The purpose of the Sexual Integrity Workouts at the end of each chapter - 10:55
Steps a teenager can take to create a battle plan to stay porn free - 11:40
How a pastor can struggle with porn - 16:00
His three-day intensives for pastors and their spouses - 17:50
The follow-up that is provided - 21:30

Contact Info

John's email is John@restoringheartscounseling.com

Resources

His book Pure Teens, Honoring God, Relationships, and Sex
He also recommended The 4 Disciplines of Execution: Achieving Your Wildly Important Goals, by Chris McChesney, Sean Covey, and Jim Huling

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Integrity in Leadership - Episode 12

Welcome to Coaching Christian Leaders. My name is Mark Jones and I coach Christian Leaders. Today we will be looking at the first of many biblical teachings on leadership.

When I meet with leaders, a common statement that I hear from them is this, “I just want to finish well.” I can appreciate that. I too want to finish well. But what I believe these leaders are really saying is that they want to maintain their integrity throughout their time of service.
So today the biblical leadership topic we will focus on is integrity.

Open your Bible to Psalm 78 and find your way to verse 70. Let's look at 70-72.

He chose David his servant and took him from the sheep pens; from tending the sheep he brought him to be the shepherd of his people Jacob, of Israel his inheritance. And David shepherded them with integrity of heart; with skillful hands he led them.

God chose David to lead Israel. And David led Israel as a shepherd. He had been a shepherd for his earthly father. But he became a shepherd for the Heavenly Father.

Like David, I believe God has called you to your place of leadership. He has chosen you to lead as David led. God has placed you, with your unique gifts and talents in this place of leadership.

It is interesting to me that Asaph, the man God used to pen this psalm, viewed David’s leadership as shepherding. A shepherd feeds the flock. A shepherd protects the flock. A shepherd leads the flock. Was this style of leadership, shepherding, unique to David? I don’t think so. I believe God has placed you in a similar place to do a like work.

But the reason we have come to this Psalm is verse 72. Let’s look at the easy part first. The easy part is the last half of the verse. It says about David that he, “guided them by the skillfulness of his hands.” Charles Spurgeon, in his Treasury of David, writes about this phrase. Spurgeon writes, “He was a sagacious ruler” ..... To be truthful, I did not know the word “sagacious.” I had to look it up. It means, having or showing keen mental discernment and good judgment – to be wise, to be clever.

From what I know of David, he was a good administrator, a clever diplomat, he was intelligent. So David was clever, he was intelligent, he was “sagacious.” But it is the first half of verse 72 that makes me pause. Here it is once again, So he shepherded them according to the integrity of his heart. Integrity of heart – Did you see that? Maybe Asaph forgot about Bathsheba and Uriah?

Remember earlier, I told you that many leaders I meet with want to finish well. I told you that I too want to finish well. But what about the start of our leadership or the middle of it? Shouldn’t we want these to also reflect integrity? Certainly! If we look at the early years of David’s leadership, those years were models of integrity. And from what we know of David’s later years, they too seem to be good years.

Barnes in his commentary writes, “Save in the matter of Uriah .... his administration was eminently just, pure, impartial, wise,......” Yes, save in the matter of Uriah.

To be fair to David, he did repent, he did pay a great price for his sin, and he did rebound to “finish well.” All of us can blow it. Anyone of us can fail. And we can fail like David. When we do, let us repent and seek the Savior’s forgiveness. Better yet, let us ask God to help us lead with integrity in all phases of our leadership – the beginning, the middle, and the end.

Coaching Questions

Now here are two coaching questions for you. Think them over and write down your answers.

When you are 95 years old what will you want people to say about your life? Think about that for a minute. Sometimes people will capture this idea by writing their own eulogy. With David, we say “He led with integrity of heart.” But we also say, “What about Bathsheba and Uriah?” How will people remember you?
Question number two is based on the proverbial fork in the road. That is often the case with

integrity. Do you take the path to the right or to the left; the straight path or the crooked path? Here is a question that you can use when you find yourself standing before that fork. How will this decision impact God’s purpose for my life? God has placed you here to lead. So any decision you make can impact God’s purpose for you. Think back on David and the impact his decisions made on him, his family, and even his calling.

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The Possibilities and Pitfalls of Coaching Executives - Episode 11

Dan Brown is an experienced executive who has worked in financial services, banking, asset management, and software solutions. He has served with Fortune 100 companies as well as non-profit organizations.
Dan has been awarded the Chief Information Officer of the year award and was the Atlanta Telecom Professional of the year in 2012.
These days, Dan brings all of this experience forward, serving as an executive coach. He coaches senior executives as well as mid-career executives.
You can learn more about Dan and the coaching he provides by visiting www.sage-coach.com.

Dan shared

His faith story - 1:30
What makes a c-level coaching call different from coaching a mid-level executive - 3:45
Areas where a new executive coach should prepare - 5:27
The pitfalls to coaching executives - 8:10
How he merges coaching and consulting - 10:05
His other goals and passions - 12:35

Contact Info

Dan's email: dan.brown@sage-coach.com
Dan's website: www.sage-coach.com

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Self-Publish And Extend Your Reach - Episode 10

Today we will sit down with Brandon Boone. Brandon is the pastor of Red Hills Southern Baptist Church in Enoch Utah. He’s the author of the blog OfShepherdsandSheep.com as well as the author of the book, The King's Sermon: The Sermon on the Mount and Life in the Kingdom of Heaven.
The reason I wanted to interview Brandon is his experience with publishing The Kings Sermon. Brandon took the self-publishing route. I am convinced that many of you are sitting on a former sermon series, a training curriculum, or an expertise that could easily be published. And self-publishing might just be the way you can extend your reach and also extend the reach of the gospel.

Brandon Shared

His Faith Story – 00:38
How he published his book – 3:22
The process of self-publishing with Kindle Direct Publishing – 5:05
Cover Design – 8:30
How much does it cost to use Kindle Direct Publishing – 10:00
How he used VoiceBase.com – 11:35
What are the pitfalls to self-publishing – 13:46
Encouraging words for those thinking about self-publishing – 18:00
The book, The King's Sermon – 21:41

Contact Information

Brandon's email: Brandonmckayboone@gmail.com

Resources

Brandon's Book: The King's Sermon
Brandon's blog: www.ofshepherdsandsheep.com
Kindle Direct Publishing: https://kdp.amazon.com/en_US/

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Women Rescued from Porn - Episode 9

Crystal Renaud is a certified Life & Leadership Coach and speaker. She is also the author of two books, Dirty Girls Come Clean and 90 Days to Wholeness. In 2009, Crystal founded the Dirty Girls Ministry, which is to help women with pornography addiction.

Crystal holds certifications in Professional Life Coaching, Treating Sexual Addictions, Extraordinary Women, and Caring for People God’s Way through the American Association of Christian

Counselors.

She shared

Her faith story – 1:00
The mission of Dirty Girls Ministry – 7:30
Why there fewer helps for women who struggle with porn - 11:30
The percentage of Christian women who struggle with pornography – 13:00
How she came to write Dirty Girls Come Clean - 17:05
Her clients' primary need - 19:10
The acronym S.C.A.R.S. - 23:25
What is the role of sharing in healing? 27:20

Contact Info:

Crystal's email: Coaching@crystalrenaud.com

Resources

Dirty Girls Come Clean
90 Days to Wholeness
www.CrystalRenaud.com

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When You Stop Learning You Stop Leading - Episode 8

William Attaway is the lead pastor of Southview Community Church in Herndon Virginian, a professor of Biblical Studies at Washington University of Virginia, as well as a teacher of Old and New Testament Survey at Itawamba Community College.
He holds a PhD in Old Testament Studies with an emphasis in archaeology. He is also a John Maxwell certified speaker, coach, and teacher.
William has authored two books: Lead: Leadership Lessons from the Not So Minor Prophets and 97 Leadership Nuggets Every Leader Should Know.
He has been happily married to his wife Charlotte for 20 years and they have two daughters.

William Shared

His faith story - 1:00
Why he pursued training with John Maxwell - 3:40
The impact of the John Maxwell training on his personal leadership and on his church work - 5:40
How he balances his time - 7:45
What a virtual mastermind is and why leaders should be involved in one - 9:05
What to expect when you sign up for his virtual mastermind - 10:25
The type of client and niche of his coaching - 11:35
A leadership lesson from Jonah - 12:30
His favorite nugget from his book 97 Leadership Nuggets Every Leader Should Know - 16:30
The best leadership advice he ever received -17:45
The best leadership book he has read in the past 6 months - 19:40

Resources

Lead: Leadership Lessons From the Not So Minor Prophets by William Attaway.
97 Leadership Nuggets Every Leader Should Know by William Attaway
Profiles in Leadership by Alan Axelrod

Contact Information

William's email: William@Catalyticleadership.net

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Equipping Military Leaders for Christ-Like Service - Episode 7

If you want to change an organization you must first change its leadership. That's the ministry of Officers' Christian Fellowship (OCF).

OCF’s Vision is the military community positively impacted through Christ-like leaders. OCF's Mission is to engage military leaders in Biblical fellowship and growth to equip them for Christ-like service at the intersection of faith, family, and profession.

Today we sit down with Brigadier General David B. Warner, the Executive Director of OCF. General Warner shares how the ministry of OCF is making a positive impact on the lives of U.S. military leaders.

General Warner Shared

How he came to Christ and how that led to OCF - 1:16
OCF's Mission - 6:15
How this mission is achieved - 8:11
The vision for OCF going forward - 11:47
How people can get involved with Officers' Christian Fellowship - 15:52
How knowing Christ and following His Word can help a man or woman develop professional excellence - 18:09

Contact Information

General Warner's email: David.Warner@ocfusa.org

Officers' Christian Fellowship website is www.ocfusa.org

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The Covenants, Christ, and You - Episode 6

Today we sit down with Ryan Churchill, the author of The Covenants, Christ, and You. Ryan was a great guest. He shared the origin of the book and the power of the Covenants in understanding our

identity and that of Jesus Christ.

The Covenants, Christ, and You cover the seven biblical covenants. The reader begins the journey in Eden and travels all the way to the New Covenant.

Ryan Shared:

His testimony - :30
How he became an author - 2:31
The focus of the book - 6:19
Why this is important - 7:50
Resources at the website - 10:30
The power of the small group and the Word - 11:22
The power of prayer and the Word - 14:22
How to best use the book - 15:52

Contact Information:

Ryan's email CovenantsChristYou@Icloud.com

His website: http://www.thecovenantschristandyou.com/

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Is Faith Still Relevant In A Post-Christian Culture? - Episode 5

Is our faith still relevant in a post-Christian culture? Has the church lost the right to comment on cultural issues? Today, Dr. Henry Curtis McDaniel will answer these questions.
Dr. Henry Curtis McDaniel Jr. is the founder and president of the Center for Reaching a Post-Christian Culture. He graduated cum laude from Columbia International University and obtained a Master of Divinity from Covenant Theological Seminary. He has earned two doctorates - a D.Min from Fuller Theological Seminary and a Ph.D. from Duquesne University.
Dr. McDaniel is the author of two books - When I Need God the Most and God Is All My Hope and Stay. He also wrote a series of books with his wife, Karen McDaniel called Life Brighteners.

The Conversation

His Faith Story - 1:00
The world is changing drastically - 4:30
The birth of the post-Christian America - 6:30
Define the post-Chrisitan condition - 7:07
How our thinking has changed - 10:23
The Da Vinci Code as an example - 16:20
The role of the church in a post-Christian culture - 18:37
The two paradoxes of the church - 22:27
Building intellectual scaffolds - 28:12
His upcoming book - 31:27
His advice to pastors - 33:12

Resources

His website - http://www.postchristiancondition.org/
God's Greatness and Glory is Made Most Powerful: Celebrating the Life of My Beloved Wife, Karen Preston McDaniel 1957-2017

Contact Information

Curt@postchrisitancondition.org

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Avoiding Burnout

Some Steps You Can Take Now to Overcome Burnout

How can you overcome burnout or possibly prevent it? Here are some simple steps that will help.
How to Overcome Burnout and Stay Motivated
by Rebecca Knight
"What’s the best way to recharge? Are some forms of rejuvenation better than others? How do you know if what you’re feeling is ordinary burnout or something else, like chronic dissatisfaction?" https://hbr.org/2015/04/how-to-overcome-burnout-and-stay-motivated

When Your Wife Suffers from Burnout

A pastor can struggle with work-life balance and burnout. But if he is not careful, this burnout will find its way home. Check out Shona and David Murray's article and video on this subject.
How Husbands Can Protect Their Wives from Burnout

by Shona Murray & David Murray

"Men tend to overlook their wive's burnout. At least in my own case, I didn't see it coming. So, keep your eyes open. Watch and listen for warning signs, and heed them." https://www.crossway.org/articles/how-husbands-can-protect-their-wives-from-burnout/?utm_content=buffer63066&utm_medium=social&utm_source=facebook.com&utm_campaign=buffer

What Your Congregation Needs to Know About Burnout

You're exhausted. Your life is out of balance. But the people you shepherd don't understand. If that's your situation, consider sharing this article with your congregation as you get the necessary help.
6 Things Church Members Need to Know About Pastor Burnout
by Marty Duren
"Exhaustion is not the pastor's friend. Exhaustion is an obstruction that holds open a door for temptation. When a pastor reaches the point that exhaustion, fatigue, or burnout increase the likelihood of adultery, addiction, or other sinful indulgence [sic], quitting the ministry to save the pastor is the righteous road." http://www.lifeway.com/pastors/2016/09/16/6-things-church-members-need-to-know-about-pastor-burnout/

Coaching to Achieve Work-Life Balance

Working with a coach to achieve work-life balance is a great way to avoid burnout. A coach can help you establish boundaries and identify the signs of approaching stress. With a coach, you can develop realistic goals or layout steps to unplug from your work.
I love to help pastors and ministry leaders achieve this balance. Schedule your free Strategy Session today. This 30-minute confidential session will help you address potential burnout before it consumes you.

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